How do I find out if a man is checking me out?

How do I find out if a man is checking me out?

How do you find out if a guy is checking you out? Some men can be very subtle and hard to understand. Getting right to the point the list below explains some of the male behaviour when trying to catch a woman.

1--STARING--You'll see this from an interested guy. Now, here's the thing: it has to happen often, and will happen in one of two ways:

a: If he's shy, he'll look at you. When you catch his glance, he'll turn away quick, either by dropping his eyes, or turning his head, or something of that nature. In any of these cases, though, he'll try to brush it off. You'll see this happen often.

b: If he's more courageous, he'll look at you, but may not look away. Again, this will be consistent and constant.

Essentially, if he's looking at you, he's interested. Guys don't normally look at girls they don't like. Now, the only exception is if he's looking at you because you've borrowed something of his, and he wants it back--if he's looking at you for a technical purpose, then it doesn't mean anything.

2--CHANGED ATTITUDE--Some guys may or may not change their attitudes when around you. Most confident guys won't do this. So, if you know you're up against a player or a really self-confident guy, scratch this one. But, some guys may do the following:

a: Act big when around you, but not necessarily talking directly to you--this is to get your attention, and draw it to his "bigness;" that is, his sense of importance. You'll hear him try to impress you, basically.

b: He may try to make stupid jokes, in order to get you to laugh. Guys usually try to crack a joke whenever possible--not appropriate, but possible.

c: Acting sad or depressed. Some guys play the "lonely puppy" game with you. This isn't as common, but definitely visible. It's his way of saying, "I'm cold and depressed: come comfort me." They figure a girl will look at him and think, "Oh, you poor baby--let me cradle you and shower you with love."

d: His social skills may appear to increase. That is, he'll start to talk and be friendly with everyone around your immediate area, usually within a radius of about 5 meters. It's his happiness to be around your aura of girlitude that puts him in this natural high; more effective than pot, but twice as lethal. :-)

e: He may even become hostile around you (but not with you). This is to prove his manhood to you. He'll want to defend you, or try and mouth off to other people. Again, it's a display for your consideration of his bravery. Usually, it's stupid and unwarranted, but meaningful, nonetheless.

f: ALSO--his hostility may come in the later stages of the chase: if he's getting the idea that he's losing the battle, and he's becoming frustrated. If this happens, he may be in a real bad mood and even become hostile and angry TOWARDS you. This is an effort to open up a great avenue of emotional outburst on your part. Essentially, what he wants is for you to be really caring and emotional, so he can summon his acting skills and turn this into a Titanic moment of forgiveness, passion, and blithering love. Yech...

3--INCREASE IN PIZZAZZ--I could have thought of a better word, but I'm too lazy. Anyhow, the guy may try to impress you with dazzling things, like his Palm Pilot, his new watch, or a car. He will start to acquire posessions like mad, in an effort to get you to notice him. He may also try grooming himself in a new way to see if you go for it.

4--TRIES TO SEE YOU--He may become a stalker in the sense that he'll change his schedule to coincide with yours, or he may try to hang out near the areas that you tend to be. He'll start to change his course of travel in school or work to get a glimpse of you. When he hangs around, he may do it from afar, especially if he's shy.

5--RECONNAISANCE WORK--It is a tactful method of finding out about you. He may not go around asking about you (if he does, all the better), but he'll try and find out about you in obscure ways. This is one area you may not be able to find out about, but a guy will become a detective and get your phone number, your street address, your locker number, and your bra size from whatever source he can find. If you hear of him knowing such information, you know he's got something for you. Again, though, this is a hard one.

6--STUPID QUESTIONS--In an effort to establish a bond, a guy will try and ask you questions--lots of inane, pointless questions, in hopes of connecting with you. What your favorite color is, what kind of car you drive, what's your favorite seat in the cafeteria--those kinds of things. They will be questions you wouldn't normally hear from a sane human being. Watch out for these.

7--INCREASED SIMILARITY--He may become you in some ways. He may start to enjoy the kind of music you listen to, or see the same movies you like (Lord help you if he starts to dress the same way). His interests will slowly match yours, in order to connect better.

8--HINTING AT RELATIONSHIPS--He'll be very subtle about this one. He may try and hint at going out with you, or what he'd like to do with a girl if he had the chance, or etc. Also, it's pretty common to try and get at the issue of your availability--that is, he'll try and say things like, "I'll bet your boyfriend really hates that," in hopes that you'll say, "No, I don't have a boyfriend."

9--MISPLACED COMPLIMENTS--Guys will go for the clutch shot and tell you you look nice. It may be about your hair, or your eyes, or your appearance in general. If he makes a compliment about your beauty, it's a good sign.

10--GIFTS--Oh, yes, saving the best for last--if you get anything from this guy, anything ranging from a "Get Well" card to a new car (I'm in California; this happens), it means he wants you. Guys won't normally do something like this for a girl they're not interested in, UNLESS you're already his plutonic friend, and it's a good friendship. In this case, only getting gifts constantly will be worthy of consideration.

Well, there you have it! This is harder than it looks, folks, so it may not be totally accurate (weasle room). Hopefully this helps some of you--though, lately, I've come to the conclusion that guys, believe it or not, are more complicated and confusing than girls.