CHECK OUT WHICH TREE DID YOU FELL FROM?

CHECK OUT WHICH TREE DID YOU FELL FROM?

Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree they fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree.

Find your tree below and see what you are like...

Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree
Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree

TREES (in alphabetical order)
Apple Tree (Love)
Quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.
Ash Tree (Ambition)
Extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.
Beech Tree (Creative)
Has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).

Birch Tree (Inspiration)
Vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.

Cedar Tree (Confidence)
Of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.

Chestnut Tree (Honesty)
Of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.

Cypress Tree (Faithfulness)
Strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.

Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness)
Pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humour, practical.

Fig Tree (Sensibility)
Very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humour, has artistic talent and great intelligence.


Fir tree (Mysterious)
Extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.

Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary)
Charming, sense of humour, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.

Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste)
Of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.

Lime Tree (Doubt)
Intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.


Maple Tree ( Independence of Mind)
No ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.

Oak Tree (Brave)
Robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.

Olive Tree (Wisdom)
Loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.

Pine Tree (Peacemaker)
Loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.

Poplar Tree (Uncertainty)
Looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.

Rowan Tree (Sensitivity)
Full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.

Walnut Tree (Passion)
Unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.

Weeping Willow (Melancholy)
Likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

What Men Really Want In Modern Relationships

What Men Really Want In Modern Relationships

Tips on what's really on men's minds when it comes to love and sex.

Women often say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn't worked so no, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. If the media is to be believed, many women don't care what a man is looking for anymore because they have been empowered by their own sexuality and are comfortable in their new role as sexually liberated career woman in charge of their own destiny. In which case, as long as the man wants them, that is fine.

It doesn't matter whether that view is actually true or not. What is true is that the modern man is increasingly struggling to find his place in the world. The Armed Forces and Space programs quite rightly have very highly qualified career women working in their departments and in most aspects of industry, women excel. The old male bastions are crumbling and with them their innate self respect as well as their understanding of how they should act and what they desire.

Any woman reading this may say well it's a problem for men and they should deal with it. Absolutely, but you cannot expect miracles instantly. Generations of history dictating a man's role and function cannot be decided and altered in the space of 20 years without some fallout. Few can argue against the excitement felt by women as their empowerment continues but at the same time, one must expect issues to coincide with this. And one of those as I said is the question of understanding what the modern man is looking for.

Men have started to evolve and are starting to grasp the fact that their role may not be as it once was. "Starting" is the operative word because this does not mean that there aren't large swathes of the world where men insist on being the breadwinner and women should still remain at home rearing children. It is going to take a long time to change the world. However in our western cities a change is in full swing. Men know that to find a mate they are going to have to work harder than ever before and they are aware that women call the shots far more than ever before. But this doesn't essentially change what a man is looking for.

Okay so what is a man seeking?

• First of all a man is seeking a love-interest. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. The problem is that many women come across as impassioned and cold. It is not easy to find a loving woman and it is very noticeable how many men try and hang on when they think they have found their Miss Right.

• Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men aren't necessarily looking for a catwalk model and many men don't like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance (though not excessively). Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I don't believe any man who says otherwise.

• Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. This may sound like an odd thing to say, but the fact is, some women are not trustworthy and many are not faithful either. So many in fact that men are increasingly wary. That kiss at a Christmas party may not count, or the flirtatious behavior with the gorgeous barman and in fact its all great fun and part of a woman's character. But reverse the situation and as a woman, you hate him doing the same. A man can never forgive a woman being unfaithful and so he is looking for someone who he really does trust.

• Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be a willing sharer in home life. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social diary running in a long term relationship.

• Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in themselves. I am not suggesting that the man himself needs mothering, though some do, it is more the point that men seek the attributes in women that point to someone who would make a great mother to future offspring.

• Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women often come across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is 'one of the boys'. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Such women are extremely attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working and so their ideal partners are women who are able to do the same.

• Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and and are caring and kind. In recent years, aping men may be a female fashion statement, but it doesn't make them attractive. Whilst every woman in the world burps and farts and has the right to drink pints of beer, it doesn't necessarily attract them to the opposite sex. Women can get angry and say well men will just have to get used to it, but the issue is that they don't. They can just choose not to go for women who act in the same way as their drinking buddies.

• Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and set about trying to alter them and mould them. This is a crucial mistake. Men can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man.

• Men don't like angry women who shout. They want a woman who can debate and converse and is able to discuss. Communication is king. A fiery passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on day one. But by day 500 it holds no glory whatsoever.

• Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. Men are generally lazy in relationships once they feel they're in secure territory. When a man is challenged so he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged.

• Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. This is my experience is a fact. Men know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. The adventurous sexual appetite in most men isn't there even if they are convinced it is. Men in reality are quite conservative. Sexually adventurous has nothing to do with having lots of partners and more to do with the things they will try with the same partner. In most test cases I have conducted, it is the man who looks for a quiet time in the bedroom and the woman who ultimately becomes bored.

• Men want a woman who will commit to them. Though increasingly this is hard to find, it doesn't take away the wish. Men want a girlfriend who they can share with and trust and be open with. Commitment is not a one way street and therefore men are struggling to find the levels of commitment they found previously. But the need is still there.

• Men don't want to be alone.

This column can easily fire a great debate. The fact is, a modern man is seeking a reliable, sexy, single girl with whom he can have a long term relationship with. He wants to have fun, share his life and ultimately settle down. There are a few long term bachelors but not that many. The problem guys have is that the world has changed. They don't necessarily want to have children and settle down straight away, but it will come. They do seek self-respect even if they are not the primary breadwinner and they seek respect from their partner.

While women become increasingly strong in their new roles in society, it is worth remembering that it takes, and always will take, two to tango.

Overcoming Shyness - Men’s Self-Study Practice Guide

Overcoming Shyness - Men’s Self-Study Practice Guide

The problem with being shy is that you may miss out on all that life can offer.

Shy people date less, and are more focused on themselves than others when in conversation..

Why Is Shyness a Concern?

If you are shy, you may be perceived as less friendly, not interested, or just plain "boring" -simply because you don't know what to say in social situations.

The shy man gives the impression of being inferior and less able to succeed and provide for the woman and women feel a certain level of contempt, sometimes overt, but sometimes residing deep at a subconscious level for men like us.

You have to be aware of the 'vibes' you are sending off. This applies to men and women, it's just that a lot of us shy guys only care about what women think.

Shyness seems to be common problems among men. Striking up conversation or approaching girls becomes nightmare to shy men.

There seems to be a barrage of odds for me to overcome that shyness with girls. It also seems to be a problem, that most girls DO already have a boyfriend!

You may start by joining a club!

A nice film appreciation society would be good if you like that sort of stuff, then you can talk about the films and have ample opportunity to ask girls to see more films and much film seeing can be done!

It wouldn't be wise to go into immediately looking for a girlfriend...

Where to look for friends?

Chances are that if you're shy and introverted you might just be in the market for a couple more friends who might be able to get you out of your shell.

I'm sure there are a lot of people who hate going to night clubs.

What do you do?

Go to class, go to work, go shopping.

Look for someone wherever you are. If you are pretty introverted, it often takes a lot for you to meet people.

Maybe, finding an outgoing person will help you move through your shyness and show you what life is all about.

The real problem is that the shy man is simply unattractive to women because of his display of social awkwardness.

Because of these are other negative traits associated with shyness, women rarely if ever give the shy man the opportunity to know whether he can be "upbeat and nice to be with" once she actually got to know him.

It is certainly true that a woman will not want to continue to spend time with someone who is negative and depressing. However, for the shy man, the problem is that he has tremendous difficulty even getting noticed or getting attention in the first place.

Places to start casual friendships - with the opposite sex

Join groups ( pottery class, and any class ) that you like to purse.

This gets you out into the market with people that like the same things as you. Plus, if you don't find anyone, you haven't lost anything because you have been doing something you like doing.

If you see a nice girl, start talking to her.

Don't let her scare YOU off. She won't be scared off if you're nice, and don't come on too strong.

Be yourself, try to act normal and if she's not interested, that's that. She met you, you tried, try again!

Just remember that their are many more hurdles once you find someone.

It seems that many woman want that self confident, charming personality.

They don't actually want the jerks, usually. There is a positive correlation between having that personality and being a jerk...

Since the jerks don't care about anyone else, they have nothing to lose, and can approach women in a completely relaxed and confident way...

Start in small steps

Question is whether it's possible for a nice person to develop that confident and assured exterior.

A lot of girls say nice guys were boring because they lacked confidence, assertiveness and sexual passion, and that jerks wouldn't listen, just wanted sex and acted like you were a piece of property to be used, abused and set on a shelf.

There is one element of shyness that will serve you well - the desire be trusted and liked for you are.

Tip Chose to look at women as whole human beings like myself, with goals, feelings, as well as passionate desires.

A woman has interests like you do, she experiences attractions like you do, despite the difference in pace among men and women.

There is a fine line between being a selfish overconfident jerk and being an insecure boring self conscious nice guy - walk that line.

Take action.

Don't just be a gentleman, don't just be an jerk, balance your spiritual values and physical desires, be confident and selective. Shy guys just sit there thinking.

There are time when I was scared to approach a woman, my heart would be pounding and I would tell myself to just walk over and introduce myself, dry throat, and choked up.

But afterwards I be laughing because once the adrenaline rush of fear was over the resulting relaxation was joyously intoxicating.

The only person who can take action is YOU!

Know what the difference is between the you and your friend with a date? They're shy, but they didn't let it stop them!

I was shy until but over time I gained confidence in myself and realized I had nothing to lose and everything to gain by approaching women. That was one of the most positive changes in my life.

It gets easier to overcome your embarrassment with practice, and it doesn't do you any damage. Sure, you'll still be shy and embarrassed, occasionally, but after a while it won't stop you.

I've been overcoming my shyness for so long that I regularly do things that 'normal' people never seem to get up the nerve for....

So the next time you're standing there on the edge of the high diving board, when your mind says

'But, but, but,...'

tell your legs to ignore them and just jump.

Three instant actions (steps) you can take to change shy habit

Tip# Don't go into a conversation with a woman because you are looking for someone to date.

Just talk to any woman like any man, completely uninterested romantically. If it's meant to happen, you'll get signals from her end.

That should help you relax.

Tip# If you're impatient and really want to develop a skill at talking to women (and it is a skill), try to set yourself up into situations where you would be forced to talk to women

- blind dates are always fun.

But the situations which have helped me most were times that I would meet a girl and know that we probably won't see each other again anyways, like at a party of a friend of a friend, or when visiting out of town.

This would let me be more relaxed in terms of talking to her.

Tip# Most guys tend to be shy because they were scared of what girls would think of them.

It turns out that in almost every situation where You meet a girl this way, You'll hit it off really well and find out of our way to keep in touch with each other.

Specifically because in this situation you become more relaxed in your motives for talking to her.

You’ll be astonished at how being a host at a party may get you close to women for just that reason.

Start working on your shyness!

Biologically speaking, women are programmed to be attracted to strong, assertive, outgoing, confident men.

On the other hand, the shy man looks very wimpy, cowardly, and weak even though he may be a so-called "nice" man. The shy man gives the impression of being inferior and less able to succeed and provide for the woman and women feel a certain level of contempt.

I think the main problem though isn't coming off as shy at first, but in continuing to be shy after the point when you should be more comfortable around the person. That comes off as creepy by the third or fourth time you see the person.

Here are my quick tips to take shyness under control. I found a few things help:

For the beginning, just try to talk to any woman like any man, completely uninterested romantically.

Set yourself up into situations where you would be forced to talk to women.

Attend parties of your friends, or take courage and throw your own. That way you’ll have a new role, being a host of the party would make you more relaxed in terms of talking to women. Why it is so important?

Get involved in group activities! There are times when you need help from other people and the odds are your help will be needed too. This may be your chance to get involved in closer relationship with women.

Which group activities do I recommend?

It depends on your personality, and the activities you already know to do well. However some are really well suited to start new close relationships.

Surround yourself with people that have good things to say about you! Those are usually ones that know you for a long time. However you need to encourage them to talk about you in an unconventional way, when you are have a chance to start relationship. Find out more how to set up the situation for a conversation about you!

You need to know how to emphasize your good personality points and also why avoid hiding the bad ones.

Do things that make you feel good. Submission is never a good habit. Define your standards. Watch other people around you as often as you can watch for signs that tell you how they feel in your company. The reason this has to be done is so you can make choices too.

Don't be afraid to say what you like or what you do for fear of rejection. There are good as well as bad ways to do so.

It's easy to say: Girls are people too, there's nothing special about them to be afraid of.

But how to really break barriers of shyness and make that first step? This step makes an important chapter in my report!

The Search for Mr. Right

The Search for Mr. Right

Actively seek out your soulmate and you'll find him

Does Mr. Right exist? Is he out there somewhere? Will I find him?

Mr. Right is a key subject for many women and an inspiration of hope on a daily basis. Yes, probably exists Yes, he is probably your match. Yes, you WILL find him! Of course in all our lives we have goals, aims, ambitions and desires small and large. It is these landmarks and goalposts that keep us positive and busy. It is what makes us human. In recent years the terms Mr. Right and Miss Right have become over used and clichéd. It is almost as if we have a chart on our wall, an extensive check list or a resume of specifics that the person in question must submit to get his foot through the door of the "potentials" interview.

Most of us would deny we are pushing away Mr. Right as we hope that chance will take a hand in bringing Mr. Right to us. Many of us accept that we have a small but insignificant "list" and yes, we accept that there are some requirements on it which are nonnegotiable, but they are fairly minor. Or are they? The fact of the matter is that as the decades have passed by, we have become far more sophisticated, as humans, as individuals, as lovers and mates. We are adults, we have a good salary and a nice home and are well educated in the ways of the world. Therefore it is only fair that we seek someone to match, to fit in, to adapt, to accompany, to facilitate, right? Therein lays the issue.

The fact is that Mr. Right also has a check list, of his wishes and needs, only a small one of course, but a list all the same, and he is ticking off your assets as we speak. He wants someone young, someone well educated, someone good looking and in shape. We are indignant, how shallow we cry. Typical man we sigh. Yet are we any better? Look at your list and look very carefully at what or who constitutes your Mr. Right. And then look again. Are you sure first of all that your tick list is achievable? Yes, or are you willing to negotiate? Okay so you are happy with your list. Then what?

Are you willing to go out and get your Mr. Right or are you waiting for him to come to you? Many women tell me they are waiting for Mr. Right. The word "waiting" concerns me. By waiting it means men come to you by chance, perhaps by design and you tick off their assets, your check them out and then cast off anyone who doesn't match your list. Maybe you do, but remember this my friends, Mr. Right is looking for his Miss Right? How much work have you put into being Miss Right or should he accept you as you are and fit in around you? If he did slot in to your life would he really be Mr. Right or an accouterment, an asset, a trinket that you would get bored of?

The thing I am asked by eligible men more than anything these days is, "where have all the nice girls gone". Think about those words carefully. These men are not asking where the doormats went, the meek mice, the housewife slaves. Not at all. No what they are asking is where all the women went who don't have a huge checklist as long as their arms. Most men simply want someone to love, someone who they can dote on in their own ways and who they can feel special and share with. The problem for them is that they are not finding it because they are constantly under the pressure of women’s check lists. They are told they must adapt and fit in, they are trying to fulfill their part of the list bargain and then they are faced with the Miss Rights out there.

As a potential Miss Right you owe it to yourself to complete a few tasks. Take a long, hard look at your list and ask yourself exactly how flexible you are being. Secondly look at who your Mr. Right is and how truthfully obtainable they are. Thirdly, don't kid yourself about your own potentials but don't compromise on ideals either. Fourthly, bring yourself out into the open and go after your Mr. Right.

Don't play the waiting game because you do not want to spend the rest of your life knowing your Mr. Perfect is married to someone else when he could have been yours. And finally, compromise is the key in reality, for all the things Mr. Right must be, try and balance that with attempting to be something your Mr. Right doesn't want to miss.