WHAT TREE DID YOU FALL FROM?
Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree they fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree.
Find your tree below and see what you are like...
Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree
Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree
TREES (in alphabetical order)
Apple Tree (Love)
Quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.
Ash Tree (Ambition)
Extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.
Beech Tree (Creative)
Has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).
Birch Tree (Inspiration)
Vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.
Cedar Tree (Confidence)
Of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.
Chestnut Tree (Honesty)
Of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.
Cypress Tree (Faithfulness)
Strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.
Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness)
Pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humour, practical.
Fig Tree (Sensibility)
Very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humour, has artistic talent and great intelligence.
Fir tree (Mysterious)
Extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.
Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary)
Charming, sense of humour, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.
Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste)
Of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.
Lime Tree (Doubt)
Intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.
Maple Tree ( Independence of Mind)
No ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.
Oak Tree (Brave)
Robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.
Olive Tree (Wisdom)
Loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.
Pine Tree (Peacemaker)
Loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.
Poplar Tree (Uncertainty)
Looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.
Rowan Tree (Sensitivity)
Full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.
Walnut Tree (Passion)
Unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.
Weeping Willow (Melancholy)
Likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.
Always,
BENZ NEWTON
Wednesday, 16 January 2008
TEN MISTAKES MEN MAKE WITH WOMEN BEFOFE, DURING AND AFTER A DATE.
TEN MISTAKES MEN MAKE WITH WOMEN BEFOFE, DURING AND AFTER A DATE.
STAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her to Like You”
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make they look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.
I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-
A-Week Email Newsletter...
...But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY.
And I'd like to invite you to sign up.
It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).
Of course, it even get's better than that...
In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now.
It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
To sign up for my free three-times-a-week newsletter AND download your copy of this online eBook, just go here:
Free Dating Tips Newsletter And Download eBook
Oh, And One More Thing...
In this day and age of "instant gratification", I realize that this might just sound like another late-night info-mercial promising to make you rich by next week.
Well, that's not the case.
I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women... without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be "manipulative".
I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women.
I know, I know... an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way.
Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%.
If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level, and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then call +2348052360819 or send an email to: amennewton@hotmail.com
STAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her to Like You”
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make they look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.
I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-
A-Week Email Newsletter...
...But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY.
And I'd like to invite you to sign up.
It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).
Of course, it even get's better than that...
In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now.
It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
To sign up for my free three-times-a-week newsletter AND download your copy of this online eBook, just go here:
Free Dating Tips Newsletter And Download eBook
Oh, And One More Thing...
In this day and age of "instant gratification", I realize that this might just sound like another late-night info-mercial promising to make you rich by next week.
Well, that's not the case.
I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women... without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be "manipulative".
I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women.
I know, I know... an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way.
Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%.
If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level, and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then call +2348052360819 or send an email to: amennewton@hotmail.com
"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men—And What To Do About It..."
“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men—
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of Their Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid
Every One Of Them...
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.
Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...
And because I've been this guy in the past myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.
The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something for A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...
It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally available”
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I've studied peoples behavior, “inner psychology” and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.
If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be
successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he's not ready”.
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of Their Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid
Every One Of Them...
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.
Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...
And because I've been this guy in the past myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.
The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something for A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...
It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally available”
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I've studied peoples behavior, “inner psychology” and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.
If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be
successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he's not ready”.
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.
Tuesday, 15 January 2008
The Cupid’s STORY "Love cannot dwell with suspicion"
The Cupid’s STORY
Love cannot dwell with suspicion
From Bulfinch’s Mythology: Cupid and Psyche
According to legend, Cupid, the ancient Roman god of love (his Greek counterpart was Eros), and the princess Psyche fell in love. After many hardships, brought on by the opposition of Cupid’s mother Venus (Aphrodite in Greek mythology), the goddess of love, Cupid and Psyche were united. The tale has had various interpretations, including the union of love and the soul, or the yearning of the soul for immortality. Nineteenth-century American mythologist Thomas Bulfinch based the following version of the tale of Cupid and Psyche on a work by the 2nd-century Roman writer Lucius Apuleius. Bulfinch also quoted from poems on the subject by 17th-century English poet John Milton and 19th-century English poet John Keats.
From Bulfinch’s Mythology: Cupid and Psyche
By Thomas Bulfinch
A certain king and queen had three daughters. The charms of the two elder were more than common, but the beauty of the youngest was so wonderful that the poverty of language is unable to express its due praise. The fame of her beauty was so great that strangers from neighbouring countries came in crowds to enjoy the sight, and looked on her with amazement, paying her that homage which is due only to Venus herself. In fact Venus found her altars deserted, while men turned their devotion to this young virgin. As she passed along, the people sang her praises, and strewed her way with chaplets and flowers.
This perversion of homage due only to the immortal powers to the exaltation of a mortal gave great offence to the real Venus. Shaking her ambrosial locks with indignation, she exclaimed, 'Am I then to be eclipsed in my honours by a mortal girl? In vain then did that royal shepherd, whose judgment was approved by Jove himself, give me the palm of beauty over my illustrious rivals, Pallas [Athena] and Juno. But she shall not so quietly usurp my honours. I will give her cause to repent of so unlawful a beauty.'
Thereupon she calls her winged son Cupid, mischievous enough in his own nature, and rouses and provokes him yet more by her complaints. She points out Psyche to him and says, 'My dear son, punish that contumacious beauty; give thy mother a revenge as sweet as her injuries are great; infuse into the bosom of that haughty girl a passion for some low, mean, unworthy being, so that she may reap a mortification as great as her present exultation and triumph.'
Cupid prepared to obey the commands of his mother. There are two fountains in Venus's garden, one of sweet waters, the other of bitter. Cupid filled two amber vases, one from each fountain, and suspending them from the top of his quiver, hastened to the chamber of Psyche, whom he found asleep. He shed a few drops from the bitter fountain over her lips, though the sight of her almost moved him to pity; then touched her side with the point of his arrow. At the touch she awoke, and opened eyes upon Cupid (himself invisible), which so startled him that in his confusion he wounded himself with his own arrow. Heedless of his wound, his whole thought now was to repair the mischief he had done, and he poured the balmy drops of joy over all her silken ringlets.
Psyche, henceforth frowned upon by Venus, and derived no benefit from all her charms. True, all eyes were cast eagerly upon her, and every mouth spoke her praises; but neither king, royal youth, nor plebeian presented himself to demand her in marriage. Her two elder sisters of moderate charms had now long been married to two royal princes; but Psyche, in her lonely apartment, deplored her solitude, sick of that beauty which, while it procured abundance of flattery, had failed to awaken love.
Her parents, afraid that they had unwittingly incurred the anger of the gods, consulted the oracle of Apollo, and received this answer: 'The virgin is destined for the bride of no mortal lover. Her future husband awaits her on the top of the mountain. He is a monster whom neither gods nor men can resist.'
This dreadful decree of the oracle filled all the people with dismay, and her parents abandoned themselves to grief. But Psyche said, 'Why, my dear parents, do you now lament me? You should rather have grieved when the people showered upon me undeserved honours, and with one voice called me a Venus. I now perceive that I am a victim to that name. I submit. Lead me to that rock to which my unhappy fate has destined me.' Accordingly, all things being prepared, the royal maid took her place in the procession, which more resembled a funeral than a nuptial pomp, and with her parents, amid the lamentations of the people, ascended the mountain, on the summit of which they left her alone, and with sorrowful hearts returned home.
While Psyche stood on the ridge of the mountain, panting with fear and with eyes full of tears, the gentle Zephyr raised her from the earth and bore her with an easy motion into a flowery dale. By degrees her mind became composed, and she laid herself down on the grassy bank to sleep. When she awoke refreshed with sleep, she looked round and beheld near by a pleasant grove of tall and stately trees. She entered it, and in the midst discovered a fountain, sending forth clear and crystal waters, and fast by, a magnificent palace whose august front impressed the spectator that it was not the work of mortal hands, but the happy retreat of some god. Drawn by admiration and wonder, she approached the building and ventured to enter. Every object she met filled her with pleasure and amazement. Golden pillars supported the vaulted roof, and the walls were enriched with carvings and paintings representing beasts of the chase and rural scenes, adapted to delight the eye of the beholder. Proceeding onward, she perceived that besides the apartments of state there were others filled with all manner of treasures, and beautiful and precious productions of nature and art.
While her eyes were thus occupied, a voice addressed her, though she saw no one, uttering these words: 'Sovereign lady, all that you see is yours. We whose voices you hear are your servants and shall obey all your commands with our utmost care and diligence. Retire, therefore, to your chamber and repose on your bed of down, and when you see fit repair to the bath. Supper awaits you in the adjoining alcove when it pleases you to take your seat there.'
Psyche gave ear to the admonitions of her vocal attendants, and after repose and the refreshment of the bath, seated herself in the alcove, where a table immediately presented itself, without any visible aid from waiters or servants, and covered with the greatest delicacies of food and the most nectareous wines. Her ears too were feasted with music from invisible performers; of whom one sang, another played on the lute, and all closed in the wonderful harmony of a full chorus.
She had not yet seen her destined husband. He came only in the hours of darkness and fled before the dawn of morning, but his accents were full of love, and inspired a like passion in her. She often begged him to stay and let her behold him, but he would not consent. On the contrary he charged her to make no attempt to see him, for it was his pleasure, for the best of reasons, to keep concealed. 'Why should you wish to behold me?' he said; 'have you any doubt of my love? have you any wish ungratified? If you saw me, perhaps you would fear me, perhaps adore me, but all I ask of you is to love me. I would rather you would love me as an equal than adore me as a god.'
This reasoning somewhat quieted Psyche for a time, and while the novelty lasted she felt quite happy. But at length the thought of her parents, left in ignorance of her fate, and of her sisters, precluded from sharing with her the delights of her situation, preyed on her mind and made her begin to feel her palace as but a splendid prison. When her husband came one night, she told him her distress, and at last drew from him an unwilling consent that her sisters should be brought to see her.
So, calling Zephyr, she acquainted him with her husband's commands, and he, promptly obedient, soon brought them across the mountain down to their sister's valley. They embraced her and she returned their caresses. 'Come,' said Psyche, 'enter with me my house and refresh yourselves with whatever your sister has to offer.' Then taking their hands she led them into her golden palace, and committed them to the care of her numerous train of attendant voices, to refresh them in her baths and at her table, and to show them all her treasures. The view of these celestial delights caused envy to enter their bosoms, at seeing their young sister possessed of such state and splendour, so much exceeding their own.
They asked her numberless questions, among others what sort of a person her husband was. Psyche replied that he was a beautiful youth, who generally spent the daytime in hunting upon the mountains. The sisters, not satisfied with this reply, soon made her confess that she had never seen him. Then they proceeded to fill her bosom with dark suspicions. 'Call to mind,' they said, 'the Pythian oracle that declared you destined to marry a direful and tremendous monster. The inhabitants of this valley say that your husband is a terrible and monstrous serpent, who nourishes you for a while with dainties that he may by and by devour you. Take our advice. Provide yourself with a lamp and a sharp knife; put them in concealment that your husband may not discover them, and when he is sound asleep, slip out of bed, bring forth your lamp, and see for yourself whether what they say is true or not. If it is, hesitate not to cut off the monster's head, and thereby recover your liberty.'
Psyche resisted these persuasions as well as she could, but they did not fail to have their effect on her mind, and when her sisters were gone, their words and her own curiosity were too strong for her to resist. So she prepared her lamp and a sharp knife, and hid them out of sight of her husband. When he had fallen into his first sleep, she silently rose and uncovering her lamp beheld not a hideous monster, but the most beautiful and charming of the gods, with his golden ringlets wandering over his snowy neck and crimson cheek, with two dewy wings on his shoulders, whiter than snow, and with shining feathers like the tender blossoms of spring. As she leaned the lamp over to have a nearer view of his face a drop of burning oil fell on the shoulder of the god, startled with which he opened his eyes and fixed them full upon her; then, without saying one word, he spread his white wings and flew out of the window. Psyche, in vain endeavouring to follow him, fell from the window to the ground. Cupid, beholding her as she lay in the dust, stopped his flight for an instant and said, 'O foolish Psyche, is it thus you repay my love? After having disobeyed my mother's commands and made you my wife, will you think me a monster and cut off my head? But go; return to your sisters, whose advice you seem to think preferable to mine. I inflict no other punishment on you than to leave you for ever. Love cannot dwell with suspicion.' So saying, he fled away, leaving poor Psyche prostrate on the ground, filling the place with mournful lamentations.
When she had recovered some degree of composure she looked around her, but the palace and gardens had vanished, and she found herself in the open field not far from the city where her sisters dwelt. She repaired thither and told them the whole story of her misfortunes, at which, pretending to grieve, those spiteful creatures inwardly rejoiced. 'For now,' said they, 'he will perhaps choose one of us.' With this idea, without saying a word of her intentions, each of them rose early the next morning and ascended the mountain, and having reached the top, called upon Zephyr to receive her and bear her to his lord; then leaping up, and not being sustained by Zephyr, fell down the precipice and was dashed to pieces.
Psyche meanwhile wandered day and night, without food or repose, in search of her husband. Casting her eyes on a lofty mountain having on its brow a magnificent temple, she sighed and said to herself, 'Perhaps my love, my lord, inhabits there,' and directed her steps thither.
She had no sooner entered than she saw heaps of corn, some in loose ears and some in sheaves, with mingled ears of barley. Scattered about, lay sickles and rakes, and all the instruments of harvest, without order, as if thrown carelessly out of the weary reapers hands in the sultry hours of the day.
This unseemly confusion the pious Psyche put an end to, by separating and sorting everything to its proper place and kind, believing that she ought to neglect none of the gods, but endeavour by her piety to engage them all in her behalf. The holy Ceres, whose temple it was, finding her so religiously employed, thus spoke to her: 'O Psyche, truly worthy of our pity, though I cannot shield you from the frowns of Venus, yet I can teach you how best to allay her displeasure. Go, then, and voluntarily surrender yourself to your lady and sovereign, and try by modesty and submission to win her forgiveness, and perhaps her favour will restore you the husband you have lost.'
Psyche obeyed the commands of Ceres and took her way to the temple of Venus, endeavouring to fortify her mind and ruminating on what she should say and how best propitiate the angry goddess, feeling that the issue was doubtful and perhaps fatal.
Venus received her with angry countenance. 'Most undutiful and faithless of servants,' said she, 'do you at last remember that you really have a mistress? Or have you rather come to see your sick husband, yet laid up of the wound given him by his loving wife? You are so ill-favoured and disagreeable that the only way you can merit your lover must be by dint of industry and diligence. I will make trial of your housewifery.' Then she ordered Psyche to be led to the storehouse of her temple, where was laid up a great quantity of wheat, barley, millet, vetches, beans, and lentils prepared for food for her pigeons, and said, 'Take and separate all these grains, putting all of the same kind in a parcel by themselves, and see that you get it done before evening.' Then Venus departed and left her to her task.
But Psyche, in a perfect consternation at the enormous work, sat stupid and silent, without moving a finger to the inextricable heap.
While she sat despairing, Cupid stirred up the little ant, a native of the fields, to take compassion on her. The leader of the ant-hill, followed by whole hosts of his six-legged subjects, approached the heap, and with the utmost diligence taking grain by grain, they separated the pile, sorting each kind to its parcel; and when it was all done, they vanished out of sight in a moment.
Venus at the approach of twilight returned from the banquet of the gods, breathing odours and crowned with roses. Seeing the task done, she exclaimed, 'This is no work of yours, wicked one, but his, whom to your own and his misfortune you have enticed.' So saying, she threw her a piece of black bread for her supper and went away.
Next morning Venus ordered Psyche to be called and said to her, 'Behold yonder grove which stretches along the margin of the water. There you will find sheep feeding without a shepherd, with golden-shining fleeces on their backs. Go, fetch me a sample of that precious wool gathered from every one of their fleeces.'
Psyche obediently went to the riverside, prepared to do her best to execute the command. But the river god inspired the reeds with harmonious murmurs, which seemed to say, 'O maiden, severely tried, tempt not the dangerous flood, nor venture among the formidable rams on the other side, for as long as they are under the influence of the rising sun, they burn with a cruel rage to destroy mortals with their sharp horns or rude teeth. But when the noontide sun has driven the cattle to the shade, and the serene spirit of the flood has lulled them to rest, you may then cross in safety, and you will find the woolly gold sticking to the bushes and the trunks of the trees.'
Thus the compassionate river god gave Psyche instructions how to accomplish her task, and by observing his directions she soon returned to Venus with her arms full of the golden fleece; but she received not the approbation of her implacable mistress, who said, 'I know very well it is by none of your own doings that you have succeeded in this task, and I am not satisfied yet that you have any capacity to make yourself useful. But I have another task for you. Here, take this box and go your way to the infernal shades, and give this box to Proserpine and say, 'My mistress Venus desires you to send her a little of your beauty, for in tending her sick son she has lost some of her own.' Be not too long on your errand, for I must paint myself with it to appear at the circle of the gods and goddesses this evening.'
Psyche was now satisfied that her destruction was at hand, being obliged to go with her own feet directly down to Erebus. Wherefore, to make no delay of what was not to be avoided, she goes to the top of a high tower to precipitate herself headlong, thus to descend the shortest way to the shades below. But a voice from the tower said to her, 'Why, poor unlucky girl, dost thou design to put an end to thy days in so dreadful a manner? And what cowardice makes thee sink under this last danger who hast been so miraculously supported in all thy former?' Then the voice told her how by a certain cave she might reach the realms of Pluto, and how to avoid all the dangers of the road, to pass by Cerberus, the three-headed dog, and prevail on Charon, the ferryman, to take her across the black river and bring her back again. But the voice added, 'When Proserpine has given you the box filled with her beauty, of all things this is chiefly to be observed by you, that you never once open or look into the box nor allow your curiosity to pry into the treasure of the beauty of the goddesses.'
Psyche, encouraged by this advice, obeyed it in all things, and taking heed to her ways travelled safely to the kingdom of Pluto. She was admitted to the palace of Proserpine, and without accepting the delicate seat or delicious banquet that was offered her, but contented with coarse bread for her food, she delivered her message from Venus. Presently the box was returned to her, shut and filled with the precious commodity. Then she returned the way she came, and glad was she to come out once more into the light of day.
But having got so far successfully through her dangerous task a longing desire seized her to examine the contents of the box. 'What,' said she, 'shall I, the carrier of this divine beauty, not take the least bit to put on my cheeks to appear to more advantage in the eyes of my beloved husband!' So she carefully opened the box, but found nothing there of any beauty at all, but an infernal and truly Stygian sleep, which being thus set free from its prison, took possession of her, and she fell down in the midst of the road, a sleepy corpse without sense or motion.
But Cupid, being now recovered from his wound, and not able longer to bear the absence of his beloved Psyche, slipping through the smallest crack of the window of his chamber which happened to be left open, flew to the spot where Psyche lay, and gathering up the sleep from her body closed it again in the box, and waked Psyche with a light touch of one of his arrows. 'Again,' said he, 'hast thou almost perished by the same curiosity. But now perform exactly the task imposed on you by my mother, and I will take care of the rest.'
Then Cupid, as swift as lightning penetrating the heights of heaven, presented himself before Jupiter with his supplication. Jupiter lent a favouring ear, and pleaded the cause of the lovers so earnestly with Venus that he won her consent. On this he sent Mercury to bring Psyche up to the heavenly assembly, and when she arrived, handing her a cup of ambrosia, he said, 'Drink this, Psyche, and be immortal; nor shall Cupid ever break away from the knot in which he is tied, but these nuptials shall be perpetual.'
Thus Psyche became at last united to Cupid, and in due time they had a daughter born to them whose name was Pleasure.
The fable of Cupid and Psyche is usually considered allegorical. The Greek name for a butterfly is Psyche, and the same word means the soul. There is no illustration of the immortality of the soul so striking and beautiful as the butterfly, bursting on brilliant wings from the tomb in which it has lain, after a dull, grovelling, caterpillar existence, to flutter in the blaze of day and feed on the most fragrant and delicate productions of the spring. Psyche, then, is the human soul, which is purified by sufferings and misfortunes, and is thus prepared for the enjoyment of true and pure happiness.
In works of art Psyche is represented as a maiden with the wings of a butterfly, along with Cupid, in the different situations described in the allegory.
Milton alludes to the story of Cupid and Psyche in the conclusion of his 'Comus':
'Celestial Cupid, her famed son, advanced, Holds his dear Psyche sweet entranced, After her wandering labours long, Till free consent the gods among Make her his eternal bride; And from her fair unspotted side Two blissful twins are to be born, Youth and Joy; so Jove hath sworn.'
The allegory of the story of Cupid and Psyche is well presented in the beautiful lines of T. K. Harvey:
'They wove bright fables in the days of old, When reason borrowed fancy's painted wings; When truth's clear river flowed o'er sands of gold, And told in song its high and mystic things! And such the sweet and solemn tale of her The pilgrim heart, to whom a dream was given, That led her through the world,—Love's worshipper,— To seek on earth for him whose home was heaven!'In the full city,—by the haunted fount,— Through the dim grotto's tracery of spars,— 'Mid the pine temples, on the moonlit mount, Where silence sits to listen to the stars; In the deep glade where dwells the brooding dove, The painted valley, and the scented air, She heard far echoes of the voice of Love, And found his footsteps' traces everywhere.'But nevermore they met! since doubts and fears, Those phantom shapes that haunt and blight the earth, Had come 'twixt her, a child of sin and tears, And that bright spirit of immortal birth; Until her pining soul and weeping eyes Had learned to seek him only in the skies; Till wings unto the weary heart were given, And she became Love's angel bride in heaven!'
The story of Cupid and Psyche first appears in the works of Apuleius, a writer of the second century of our era. It is therefore of much more recent date than most of the legends of the Age of Fable. It is this that Keats alludes to in his 'Ode to Psyche':
'O latest born and loveliest vision far Of all Olympus' faded hierarchy! Fairer than Phœbe's sapphire-regioned star Or Vesper, amorous glow-worm of the sky; Fairer than these, though temple thou hast none, Nor altar heaped with flowers; Nor virgin choir to make delicious moan Upon the midnight hours; No voice, no lute, no pipe, no incense sweet, From chain-swung censer teeming; No shrine, no grove, no oracle, no heat Of pale-mouthed prophet dreaming.'
In Moore's 'Summer Fête' a fancy ball is described, in which one of the characters personated is Psyche—
'… not in dark disguise to-night Hath our young heroine veiled her light;— For see, she walks the earth, Love's own. His wedded bride, by holiest vow Pledged in Olympus, and made known To mortals by the type which now Hangs glittering on her snowy brow, That butterfly, mysterious trinket, Which means the soul, (though few would think it,) And sparkling thus on brow so white Tells us we've Psyche here to-night.'
Source: Bulfinch, Thomas. Bulfinch's Mythology: The Age of Fable, The Age of Chivalry, Legends of Charlemagne. New York: Random House, 1934.
Tuesday, 8 January 2008
“Who Is Amen Newton ...?And How Can He Help Me Become MoreSuccessful With Women And Dating?”
“Who Is Amen Newton ...?And How Can He Help Me Become MoreSuccessful With Women And Dating?”
Dear Friend,Hi, it’s Amen N. here.I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself, and to give you some pointers on how you can get the most out of my techniques and my programs.First, let me answer the question: “Who is Amen Newton?”I’m actually a pretty normal guy, who went through a point where I decided that I needed to get this part of my life called “meeting women” handled.I won’t bore you with the details, but I was going through a time where I had just moved to a new city… I was single… and I had NO IDEA how to meet women or get dates. One night I was talking to one of my best friends, and I said “I am going to figure this out for myself, no matter what it takes”.Well, it wasn’t exactly easy to “figure it out”. I spent the next few years reading a lot of books, listening to “motivational tapes”, going to seminars, and generally trying out a lot of whacky ideas that I was learning.The real “break” came when I started meeting and hanging out with guys that were NATURALLY good with women.I’m talking about guys who had figured out how to attract women on their own.As I learned from these guys, I noticed that they did certain things and communicated with women in certain ways that REALLY didn’t “add up”.Maybe they would make fun of an attractive woman… but the woman would respond by laughing and playfully hitting them on the arm.Or they’d tell a woman that they didn’t like being treated like a sex object, and that she’d better not try the “buy me a drink trick” just to get a date… and they’d wind up having the woman begging for their number.The more I saw things that “didn’t make sense” actually WORKING with women, the more I began thinking that I might be on the verge of discovering something big.To make a long story short, I made rapid progress by learning from these “naturals”, and I took the things I learned from them… tested and refined the ideas into a system… and put it all together for myself.
Guys often ask me to tell them stories or give them “field reports” about women I’ve dated.
They want to know if I’ve dated anyone famous… or they want the exact word-for-word transcript of every time I’ve approached a woman.It’s not my style to brag a lot or tell stories, but the fact is that I have dated some pretty amazing women over the last several years. Yes, I’ve dated famous women. Yes, I’ve dated models. And yes, I’ve dated women that would be PERFECT in a starring role in a future “Fatal Attraction” movie.Be careful what you wish for!One of the things I’ve realized is that dating a supermodel isn’t going to automatically change your life and make you “happy” on the inside. In fact, if you believe that attracting a woman will be the answer to all of life’s problems, I’ve got bad news for you…But I can also tell you that learning how to successfully meet women anytime, day or night, in any situation will bring you HUGE benefits.I have now come to believe something that I think is very important…If you don’t know how to successfully meet women, then you’re probably going to walk through life feeling like “less than a man”. It’s not an easy thing to explain to someone who doesn’t “get it”, but I’ll bet that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.On the other hand, if you DO know how to meet and attract women, you’re going to have an inner confidence and “cool” that other people can sense INSTANTLY.Why Should You Believe That I Can Help You?As you already know quite well, there are a lot of people running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers.Well, unfortunately for you, I don’t have ALL the answers.But I do believe that I have SOME of the answers (and I think the answers I have are pretty important).The question you’re probably asking is “Why should I believe what David D. says?”.And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN’T just blindly believe me.In fact, I would recommend that you approach my materials with a healthy skepticism, and a “scientific” perspective.I want you to TRY what you learn from me.If you sign up for my free email newsletter at DoubleYourDating.com, I’m going to send you three newsletters every week… each one of them JAM-PACKED with tips, concepts, and advice on how to approach, meet, and attract women.Go out and TRY some of it!I think you’ll find that I’m not interested in things that don’t work. I like stuff that gets results. And BIG results, at that.Only after you’ve seen that this stuff is REAL… do I want you to “believe” me.By the way, my materials aren’t “perfect”.I’ve spent a lot of time trying to explain and describe what I’ve learned over the years… and to do it in a way that allows you to get results as fast as possible.The fact is that I’m learning and growing all the time… and I’ve updated some of my programs recently to reflect new things I’ve learned, new understandings I have, and new techniques I’ve developed.I’m a person, and as a person I have my flaws. But I also think my programs are the best in the world, and I stand behind them. I honestly hope you get a TON of value from them.
“Try Before You Buy”
I honestly believe that you should only have to pay for my stuff IF IT HELPS YOU MEET WOMEN.If it doesn’t help you, then you shouldn’t have to pay… makes sense, right?Before I tell you about my different programs, I want to FIRST tell you that every program I sell comes with a “Try Before You Buy” no-risk guarantee.I will let you go through any program or book you want, learn everything inside, and actually TRY IT OUT in the real world BEFORE you pay me for it.If you don’t get results IMMEDIATELY, then just send it back to me… and I won’t charge you. I’m serious.If you get to the point where you’d like to invest in one of my programs, and you want to get all the details, just go to any of the websites where you can order the program, and it will all be there.I am 100% serious about this offer… it’s real. I only want you to pay me if you meet more women.
Where Should You Start?
Once you start seeing improvement in your success with women and dating, you’re going to naturally want to get into some of my more “advanced” ideas.The best place to start is with my first ebook: “Double Your Dating”. I’ve updated it, added some great new material, and even added condensed chapter summaries for you to reference
anytime. This book contains my very best thinking, and I believe it’s the best place to start… for ANY guy who wants to learn how to attract and meet women.Before I tell you about my other programs, I want to say something that might not be the best thing for my wallet…
My best ideas are in this book. I’m serious. You don’t need to invest in my more advanced DVD programs, or come to one of my live seminars to get my “good stuff”.In fact, many of my best ideas are actually in my FREE newsletters. Really.My DVD programs and other materials are designed to help guys who are interested in getting a more “in-depth” education.Think of it like fishing…If you want to learn how to fish, just go fishing with a buddy. You’ll learn what you need to know.But if you want to learn how to fish like a PRO, it’s going to require some more education, research, and practice.My free newsletter and Double Your Dating ebook will teach you everything you need to know to meet women. If you want to become a MASTER, then consider investing in my other programs…
“Attraction Isn’t A Choice”
My second ebook is called “Attraction Isn’t A Choice: How To Use Secret Communication And Sexual Body Language To Attract Women”.This book is heavy on the “psychology” of attraction… but it also includes a few specific techniques. I think of it as a deeper journey into the mind of a man and the mind of a woman… and the complex underlying mechanisms that are at play during the human “mating process”.If you’re fascinated by psychology and behavior (like I am), then you’ll not only enjoy learning what’s in this book… but you’ll also learn how to see every aspect of meeting women differently.All the details are here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/AttractionBook/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
What’s The Next Step?
If you’ve decided to take this part of your life “seriously”, and you’d like to get a more in- depth education, then here’s how to do it…
“Interviews With Dating Gurus”
As I mentioned before, my real success with women came after learning from guys who were “naturals” with women.I recommend that YOU make friends with guys who are good with women, and spend time learning from them.If you don’t have a lot of extra time, and you’d like to learn from some of the guys that I have learned from and met over the years, then you might want to invest in my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” program.Every month, I interview a different “Dating Guru”… and then I edit the recording down to a tight, focused CD that I’ll send out to you.This is the next best thing to learning from these people in real life (it might actually be better, because you get my experience and connections as part of the deal).After listening to ten or twelve of these interviews… a few times each… it will begin to “reprogram” your mind. It will change how you see the world. It will install a new way of thinking about meeting and attracting women.Getting several different perspectives will open your mind to the possibilities that are out there for YOU… and you’ll also learn TONS of practical, real-world, step-by-step techniques for every aspect of meeting women.If you'd like to learn more about my monthly Interviews With Dating Gurus program, just go here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/InterviewSeries/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Advanced Dating Techniques”
I think of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program like “Boot Camp”.It’s probably the advanced program I’m most proud of, as it will really give you a DEEP education on all aspects of meeting women.I can remember when I first created this program, and guys who were at the live filming of the program said things like: “I thought you were just going to teach the same stuff you teach in your book… this was almost all new stuff!”.I originally created this program for guys who were interested in more of the “inner psychology” of dating success… in other words, guys who wanted to learn: how and why women were attracted to guys (and how to trigger that attraction)… how to fix “self image” problems and how to overcome the fear of approaching women… and how to “undo” bad
programming from earlier in life.Of course, the program also contains literally HUNDREDS of great tips and techniques… and even “pick up lines” for approaching women in different situations.It also features me interviewing some of my good friends who have taught ME how to meet women. Priceless.In short, if you’re going to get started with one of my more advanced programs, START WITH THIS ONE. You can watch some video clips of the program here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/AdvancedSeries/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“The Inner Game And The Outer Game”
As you might already know, I put a lot of emphasis on what you might call the “Inner Game” of success with women and dating.The Inner Game is all about what’s going on INSIDE your mind, body, and emotions.I honestly believe that if you don’t have your Inner Game together, then almost NOTHING you do or say is going to get you success with women.If you don’t have your inner game together, then fancy techniques and cute pick-up lines will only waste your time… because the woman you’re talking to will QUICKLY see that you’re not the smooth guy you’re pretending to be.On the other hand, if you DO have your Inner Game together, then you can use almost ANY technique or “opening line”… because the woman you’re approaching will be able to FEEL that you’re the kind of man that she’s been looking for…Now, don’t get me wrong…Techniques, lines, and strategies DO work with women. No question.In fact, I’ve found that women APPRECIATE it that you’ve taken the time to polish up your presentation (so to speak), and learn how to communicate in a smooth, interesting way.But it’s only part of the puzzle.With this in mind, I like to think of my programs as being “Inner Game” programs, “Outer Game” (or “technique”) programs… and “combined” programs.By the way, my ebook “Double Your Dating”, and my “Advanced Dating Techniques” program are a balance between Inner Game and Techniques…The reality is that I always sneak some of each into EVERY program… but I’m going to talk about them in terms of these two categories, so you get an idea of how they work together…
“The Inner Game”
A solid “Inner Game” is the foundation for all success with women (and with life in general, I believe).I’ve created several programs that are aimed at helping you build a POWERFUL Inner Game… and I’d like to tell you about a few of them…
Dear Friend,Hi, it’s Amen N. here.I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself, and to give you some pointers on how you can get the most out of my techniques and my programs.First, let me answer the question: “Who is Amen Newton?”I’m actually a pretty normal guy, who went through a point where I decided that I needed to get this part of my life called “meeting women” handled.I won’t bore you with the details, but I was going through a time where I had just moved to a new city… I was single… and I had NO IDEA how to meet women or get dates. One night I was talking to one of my best friends, and I said “I am going to figure this out for myself, no matter what it takes”.Well, it wasn’t exactly easy to “figure it out”. I spent the next few years reading a lot of books, listening to “motivational tapes”, going to seminars, and generally trying out a lot of whacky ideas that I was learning.The real “break” came when I started meeting and hanging out with guys that were NATURALLY good with women.I’m talking about guys who had figured out how to attract women on their own.As I learned from these guys, I noticed that they did certain things and communicated with women in certain ways that REALLY didn’t “add up”.Maybe they would make fun of an attractive woman… but the woman would respond by laughing and playfully hitting them on the arm.Or they’d tell a woman that they didn’t like being treated like a sex object, and that she’d better not try the “buy me a drink trick” just to get a date… and they’d wind up having the woman begging for their number.The more I saw things that “didn’t make sense” actually WORKING with women, the more I began thinking that I might be on the verge of discovering something big.To make a long story short, I made rapid progress by learning from these “naturals”, and I took the things I learned from them… tested and refined the ideas into a system… and put it all together for myself.
Guys often ask me to tell them stories or give them “field reports” about women I’ve dated.
They want to know if I’ve dated anyone famous… or they want the exact word-for-word transcript of every time I’ve approached a woman.It’s not my style to brag a lot or tell stories, but the fact is that I have dated some pretty amazing women over the last several years. Yes, I’ve dated famous women. Yes, I’ve dated models. And yes, I’ve dated women that would be PERFECT in a starring role in a future “Fatal Attraction” movie.Be careful what you wish for!One of the things I’ve realized is that dating a supermodel isn’t going to automatically change your life and make you “happy” on the inside. In fact, if you believe that attracting a woman will be the answer to all of life’s problems, I’ve got bad news for you…But I can also tell you that learning how to successfully meet women anytime, day or night, in any situation will bring you HUGE benefits.I have now come to believe something that I think is very important…If you don’t know how to successfully meet women, then you’re probably going to walk through life feeling like “less than a man”. It’s not an easy thing to explain to someone who doesn’t “get it”, but I’ll bet that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.On the other hand, if you DO know how to meet and attract women, you’re going to have an inner confidence and “cool” that other people can sense INSTANTLY.Why Should You Believe That I Can Help You?As you already know quite well, there are a lot of people running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers.Well, unfortunately for you, I don’t have ALL the answers.But I do believe that I have SOME of the answers (and I think the answers I have are pretty important).The question you’re probably asking is “Why should I believe what David D. says?”.And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN’T just blindly believe me.In fact, I would recommend that you approach my materials with a healthy skepticism, and a “scientific” perspective.I want you to TRY what you learn from me.If you sign up for my free email newsletter at DoubleYourDating.com, I’m going to send you three newsletters every week… each one of them JAM-PACKED with tips, concepts, and advice on how to approach, meet, and attract women.Go out and TRY some of it!I think you’ll find that I’m not interested in things that don’t work. I like stuff that gets results. And BIG results, at that.Only after you’ve seen that this stuff is REAL… do I want you to “believe” me.By the way, my materials aren’t “perfect”.I’ve spent a lot of time trying to explain and describe what I’ve learned over the years… and to do it in a way that allows you to get results as fast as possible.The fact is that I’m learning and growing all the time… and I’ve updated some of my programs recently to reflect new things I’ve learned, new understandings I have, and new techniques I’ve developed.I’m a person, and as a person I have my flaws. But I also think my programs are the best in the world, and I stand behind them. I honestly hope you get a TON of value from them.
“Try Before You Buy”
I honestly believe that you should only have to pay for my stuff IF IT HELPS YOU MEET WOMEN.If it doesn’t help you, then you shouldn’t have to pay… makes sense, right?Before I tell you about my different programs, I want to FIRST tell you that every program I sell comes with a “Try Before You Buy” no-risk guarantee.I will let you go through any program or book you want, learn everything inside, and actually TRY IT OUT in the real world BEFORE you pay me for it.If you don’t get results IMMEDIATELY, then just send it back to me… and I won’t charge you. I’m serious.If you get to the point where you’d like to invest in one of my programs, and you want to get all the details, just go to any of the websites where you can order the program, and it will all be there.I am 100% serious about this offer… it’s real. I only want you to pay me if you meet more women.
Where Should You Start?
Once you start seeing improvement in your success with women and dating, you’re going to naturally want to get into some of my more “advanced” ideas.The best place to start is with my first ebook: “Double Your Dating”. I’ve updated it, added some great new material, and even added condensed chapter summaries for you to reference
anytime. This book contains my very best thinking, and I believe it’s the best place to start… for ANY guy who wants to learn how to attract and meet women.Before I tell you about my other programs, I want to say something that might not be the best thing for my wallet…
My best ideas are in this book. I’m serious. You don’t need to invest in my more advanced DVD programs, or come to one of my live seminars to get my “good stuff”.In fact, many of my best ideas are actually in my FREE newsletters. Really.My DVD programs and other materials are designed to help guys who are interested in getting a more “in-depth” education.Think of it like fishing…If you want to learn how to fish, just go fishing with a buddy. You’ll learn what you need to know.But if you want to learn how to fish like a PRO, it’s going to require some more education, research, and practice.My free newsletter and Double Your Dating ebook will teach you everything you need to know to meet women. If you want to become a MASTER, then consider investing in my other programs…
“Attraction Isn’t A Choice”
My second ebook is called “Attraction Isn’t A Choice: How To Use Secret Communication And Sexual Body Language To Attract Women”.This book is heavy on the “psychology” of attraction… but it also includes a few specific techniques. I think of it as a deeper journey into the mind of a man and the mind of a woman… and the complex underlying mechanisms that are at play during the human “mating process”.If you’re fascinated by psychology and behavior (like I am), then you’ll not only enjoy learning what’s in this book… but you’ll also learn how to see every aspect of meeting women differently.All the details are here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/AttractionBook/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
What’s The Next Step?
If you’ve decided to take this part of your life “seriously”, and you’d like to get a more in- depth education, then here’s how to do it…
“Interviews With Dating Gurus”
As I mentioned before, my real success with women came after learning from guys who were “naturals” with women.I recommend that YOU make friends with guys who are good with women, and spend time learning from them.If you don’t have a lot of extra time, and you’d like to learn from some of the guys that I have learned from and met over the years, then you might want to invest in my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” program.Every month, I interview a different “Dating Guru”… and then I edit the recording down to a tight, focused CD that I’ll send out to you.This is the next best thing to learning from these people in real life (it might actually be better, because you get my experience and connections as part of the deal).After listening to ten or twelve of these interviews… a few times each… it will begin to “reprogram” your mind. It will change how you see the world. It will install a new way of thinking about meeting and attracting women.Getting several different perspectives will open your mind to the possibilities that are out there for YOU… and you’ll also learn TONS of practical, real-world, step-by-step techniques for every aspect of meeting women.If you'd like to learn more about my monthly Interviews With Dating Gurus program, just go here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/InterviewSeries/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Advanced Dating Techniques”
I think of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program like “Boot Camp”.It’s probably the advanced program I’m most proud of, as it will really give you a DEEP education on all aspects of meeting women.I can remember when I first created this program, and guys who were at the live filming of the program said things like: “I thought you were just going to teach the same stuff you teach in your book… this was almost all new stuff!”.I originally created this program for guys who were interested in more of the “inner psychology” of dating success… in other words, guys who wanted to learn: how and why women were attracted to guys (and how to trigger that attraction)… how to fix “self image” problems and how to overcome the fear of approaching women… and how to “undo” bad
programming from earlier in life.Of course, the program also contains literally HUNDREDS of great tips and techniques… and even “pick up lines” for approaching women in different situations.It also features me interviewing some of my good friends who have taught ME how to meet women. Priceless.In short, if you’re going to get started with one of my more advanced programs, START WITH THIS ONE. You can watch some video clips of the program here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/AdvancedSeries/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“The Inner Game And The Outer Game”
As you might already know, I put a lot of emphasis on what you might call the “Inner Game” of success with women and dating.The Inner Game is all about what’s going on INSIDE your mind, body, and emotions.I honestly believe that if you don’t have your Inner Game together, then almost NOTHING you do or say is going to get you success with women.If you don’t have your inner game together, then fancy techniques and cute pick-up lines will only waste your time… because the woman you’re talking to will QUICKLY see that you’re not the smooth guy you’re pretending to be.On the other hand, if you DO have your Inner Game together, then you can use almost ANY technique or “opening line”… because the woman you’re approaching will be able to FEEL that you’re the kind of man that she’s been looking for…Now, don’t get me wrong…Techniques, lines, and strategies DO work with women. No question.In fact, I’ve found that women APPRECIATE it that you’ve taken the time to polish up your presentation (so to speak), and learn how to communicate in a smooth, interesting way.But it’s only part of the puzzle.With this in mind, I like to think of my programs as being “Inner Game” programs, “Outer Game” (or “technique”) programs… and “combined” programs.By the way, my ebook “Double Your Dating”, and my “Advanced Dating Techniques” program are a balance between Inner Game and Techniques…The reality is that I always sneak some of each into EVERY program… but I’m going to talk about them in terms of these two categories, so you get an idea of how they work together…
“The Inner Game”
A solid “Inner Game” is the foundation for all success with women (and with life in general, I believe).I’ve created several programs that are aimed at helping you build a POWERFUL Inner Game… and I’d like to tell you about a few of them…
“On Being A Man…Who Naturally Attracts Women”
“On Being A Man…Who Naturally Attracts Women”
After putting a lot of time and energy into learning what it takes to attract and meet women, I finally realized that women aren’t attracted to BOYS. They’re attracted to MEN.And the single best thing you can do to increase your success with women and dating is to learn what’s holding you back from maturing into a MAN… and then fix those things so you become the kind of man that women are NATURALLY attracted to.Now, I have to warn you… this program probably has fewer “techniques” you can use to attract women than ANY of my programs.But it’s probably also the most PROFOUND of all my programs.This program will explain to you why most men walk around like Wussbags, begging for attention from women… and why this turns women off faster than you can flip a lightswitch.And it also explains what to do if YOU need to get rid of your “Inner Wussy”… and it explains how to become a MAN… even if you didn’t have a strong masculine male figure as a role-model growing up.In this program, you’re going to face everything from your fears… to your fear of DEATH. It’s heavy, no question.I guarantee that one review of this program will deeply affect your view of life, women, and yourself. It’s like taking a sip of water from a fire hydrant… refreshing, but scary.I also guarantee that this program will create a change in you that other people will notice… no question.If it sounds like something you need, then go read the details and watch some video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/OnBeingAMan/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Deep Inner Game”
The program I just told you about (On Being A Man) is directed at your CORE. It’s about affecting your IDENTITY.If you already “get” what it means to be a mature, masculine, confident man who knows what he’s doing in life… and you have more specific PSYCHOLOGICAL Inner Game challenges, then you might want to consider investing in my Deep Inner Game program.This program came about after several conversations that a friend (who goes by the name of “Dr. Paul”) and I had about the challenges that men face with their Inner Game.I met Dr. Paul at one of my live seminars, and we became fast friends.I think of myself as a “regular guy who likes to read a lot about psychology”, and I think of Dr. Paul as a “psychologist who likes to help a lot of regular guys”.As I got to know him, he explained that he had spent the last several years developing a “unified theory” of psychology. The more he explained it to me, the more I realized that his system was the simplest, easiest-to-understand, most applicable, and FASTEST system for
getting RESULTS… that I’d ever seen.Well, after talking about it for quite awhile, and after doing one of my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” (and getting great feedback from guys on it), we decided to do a program together.This program is called “Deep Inner Game”. It’s all about the psychology of overcoming your inner limitations, fixing “believe-level” problems, and developing a rock-solid self image… and high self-esteem… so you can confidently meet and attract women.It’s the only program of it’s type… because it takes the scientific breakthroughs from the field of psychology, and applies them to this SPECIFIC challenge of becoming more successful with women and dating.If you need to work on your DEEP Inner Game, then go read the details, and watch some video preview clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/DeepInnerGame/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Mastery With Women And Dating”
This is my longest, most intense program.It’s the program that is also the most CHALLENGING.This program contains some of the most profound material I’ve ever learned… and it also probably includes the most TECHNIQUES of any program I’ve released.It’s around 20 hours long, and it’s approximately half “Inner Game” and half technique.What makes this program very SPECIAL is that I address some very “big picture” aspects of life… and of creating a life that makes you AUTOMATICALLY attractive to women… and a life that AUTOMATICALLY brings you dating opportunities (after all, wouldn’t it be great if you didn’t have to spend time “chasing” women? Well, you don’t…).This program requires a LOT of hard work on your part. It requires that you think through just about every important aspect of your life… many of which might not “seem” like they’re important to meeting women (but they are).In this program, I describe and explain what I consider to be the “Master Key” to success with women. It’s the one single element that stands above ALL OTHERS… and it’s the one thing, that once you “get” it, allows you to know how to handle virtually EVERY situation that comes up… in a way that builds more attraction.As you’ve probably noticed, there are things that women do that tend to knock you “off balance”… or things that “test” you. Well, after you understand this “Master Key”, you’ll know
how to handle ANYTHING.This program also contains so many guest speakers… and so many different perspectives… that it will challenge you to develop your OWN style of meeting women.See, I don’t think that there’s “only one way” to meet women. I think that there are a lot of ways. The BEST way is the way that works BEST for YOU.Inside this program, you’re going to meet a lot of different guys… who will give you a lot of different approaches and techniques to try.WARNING: Do not order this program unless you’re willing to take a serious look at yourself, and unless you’re willing to do the tough work required to make lasting changes in your life. It’s not “light” material. It’s heavy material.But if you’re ready, go check it out and watch some video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/Mastery/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Power Sexuality”
It’s tough to call this program an “Inner Game” program without explaining what I’m talking about it… so here goes.This is one of the latest programs I’ve developed, and I waited to do this program until after I had created most of my others… for a very specific reason.The more I learned about different aspects of meeting women, and the more I put my ideas “on paper”… and taught them in live seminars… the more I saw that almost EVERYTHING connected in one way or another to SEXUALITY.When I finally DID a program on sex, I found that most of the materials that I was including really weren’t about “sex technique” or the ACT of sex… they were more about the CONCEPT of sex.Over the years, as I’ve worked with not only my own challenges… but also helping many other guys overcome their challenges… I’ve found that many of our challenges with things like approaching women… starting conversations… kissing a woman for the first time… and even sex itself… come down to how we THINK about sex.I now believe that if you don’t have your “issues” worked out around sex… and if you don’t BELIEVE that you will give a woman a MIND-BLOWING sexual experience… then you’re going to screw-up just about everything ELSE that happens BEFORE you have the chance to have sex.In other words, if you don’t have sex “handled”, then it will literally sabotage the rest of your
success with women.And to fix this, I’ve created a program that I call “Power Sexuality: How To Increase Your Sexual Confidence By Mastering Advanced Mental, Emotional, And Sexual Techniques”.You’ll notice that the subtitle starts with “How To Increase Your Sexual Confidence…”.Now, why did I choose THESE specific words?What is “Sexual Confidence”?And why do we need it?Well, I’ve had a lot of guys say things to me like “I don’t have any sexual confidence” and “I wish I had more sexual confidence”. These are the words that REAL GUYS use to describe their problems.At first, I didn’t really notice that these specific words were being used so often.But after I started paying closer attention, I realized that men have a common challenge… and they often use the same words to describe it.I’ve now come to realize that if you don’t have CONFIDENCE when it comes to sex, then you’re not going to have CONFIDENCE when it comes to just about anything else with women…You’re not going to have confidence when it comes to approaching a woman. You’re not going to have confidence when it comes to asking for her number… or asking her out on a date… or kissing her… or anything else.This program is ALL about BUILDING that Sexual Confidence. It’s all about overcoming guilt, shame, fear, self-consciousness, and anxiety that are connected to your SEXUAL DESIRE and sex drive.And it’s also all about teaching you some secret tricks and techniques for giving any woman a MIND-BLOWING sexual experience with you.You can read all about this program, and watch some great video clips of it here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/PowerSexuality/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
The Technique-Based Programs
Once you’ve gotten your “Inner Game” together, it’s time to really start working on your “moves”.And if you’d like to learn the most effective techniques for meeting women and getting dates, then this is the place to learn them…
After putting a lot of time and energy into learning what it takes to attract and meet women, I finally realized that women aren’t attracted to BOYS. They’re attracted to MEN.And the single best thing you can do to increase your success with women and dating is to learn what’s holding you back from maturing into a MAN… and then fix those things so you become the kind of man that women are NATURALLY attracted to.Now, I have to warn you… this program probably has fewer “techniques” you can use to attract women than ANY of my programs.But it’s probably also the most PROFOUND of all my programs.This program will explain to you why most men walk around like Wussbags, begging for attention from women… and why this turns women off faster than you can flip a lightswitch.And it also explains what to do if YOU need to get rid of your “Inner Wussy”… and it explains how to become a MAN… even if you didn’t have a strong masculine male figure as a role-model growing up.In this program, you’re going to face everything from your fears… to your fear of DEATH. It’s heavy, no question.I guarantee that one review of this program will deeply affect your view of life, women, and yourself. It’s like taking a sip of water from a fire hydrant… refreshing, but scary.I also guarantee that this program will create a change in you that other people will notice… no question.If it sounds like something you need, then go read the details and watch some video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/OnBeingAMan/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Deep Inner Game”
The program I just told you about (On Being A Man) is directed at your CORE. It’s about affecting your IDENTITY.If you already “get” what it means to be a mature, masculine, confident man who knows what he’s doing in life… and you have more specific PSYCHOLOGICAL Inner Game challenges, then you might want to consider investing in my Deep Inner Game program.This program came about after several conversations that a friend (who goes by the name of “Dr. Paul”) and I had about the challenges that men face with their Inner Game.I met Dr. Paul at one of my live seminars, and we became fast friends.I think of myself as a “regular guy who likes to read a lot about psychology”, and I think of Dr. Paul as a “psychologist who likes to help a lot of regular guys”.As I got to know him, he explained that he had spent the last several years developing a “unified theory” of psychology. The more he explained it to me, the more I realized that his system was the simplest, easiest-to-understand, most applicable, and FASTEST system for
getting RESULTS… that I’d ever seen.Well, after talking about it for quite awhile, and after doing one of my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” (and getting great feedback from guys on it), we decided to do a program together.This program is called “Deep Inner Game”. It’s all about the psychology of overcoming your inner limitations, fixing “believe-level” problems, and developing a rock-solid self image… and high self-esteem… so you can confidently meet and attract women.It’s the only program of it’s type… because it takes the scientific breakthroughs from the field of psychology, and applies them to this SPECIFIC challenge of becoming more successful with women and dating.If you need to work on your DEEP Inner Game, then go read the details, and watch some video preview clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/DeepInnerGame/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Mastery With Women And Dating”
This is my longest, most intense program.It’s the program that is also the most CHALLENGING.This program contains some of the most profound material I’ve ever learned… and it also probably includes the most TECHNIQUES of any program I’ve released.It’s around 20 hours long, and it’s approximately half “Inner Game” and half technique.What makes this program very SPECIAL is that I address some very “big picture” aspects of life… and of creating a life that makes you AUTOMATICALLY attractive to women… and a life that AUTOMATICALLY brings you dating opportunities (after all, wouldn’t it be great if you didn’t have to spend time “chasing” women? Well, you don’t…).This program requires a LOT of hard work on your part. It requires that you think through just about every important aspect of your life… many of which might not “seem” like they’re important to meeting women (but they are).In this program, I describe and explain what I consider to be the “Master Key” to success with women. It’s the one single element that stands above ALL OTHERS… and it’s the one thing, that once you “get” it, allows you to know how to handle virtually EVERY situation that comes up… in a way that builds more attraction.As you’ve probably noticed, there are things that women do that tend to knock you “off balance”… or things that “test” you. Well, after you understand this “Master Key”, you’ll know
how to handle ANYTHING.This program also contains so many guest speakers… and so many different perspectives… that it will challenge you to develop your OWN style of meeting women.See, I don’t think that there’s “only one way” to meet women. I think that there are a lot of ways. The BEST way is the way that works BEST for YOU.Inside this program, you’re going to meet a lot of different guys… who will give you a lot of different approaches and techniques to try.WARNING: Do not order this program unless you’re willing to take a serious look at yourself, and unless you’re willing to do the tough work required to make lasting changes in your life. It’s not “light” material. It’s heavy material.But if you’re ready, go check it out and watch some video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/Mastery/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Power Sexuality”
It’s tough to call this program an “Inner Game” program without explaining what I’m talking about it… so here goes.This is one of the latest programs I’ve developed, and I waited to do this program until after I had created most of my others… for a very specific reason.The more I learned about different aspects of meeting women, and the more I put my ideas “on paper”… and taught them in live seminars… the more I saw that almost EVERYTHING connected in one way or another to SEXUALITY.When I finally DID a program on sex, I found that most of the materials that I was including really weren’t about “sex technique” or the ACT of sex… they were more about the CONCEPT of sex.Over the years, as I’ve worked with not only my own challenges… but also helping many other guys overcome their challenges… I’ve found that many of our challenges with things like approaching women… starting conversations… kissing a woman for the first time… and even sex itself… come down to how we THINK about sex.I now believe that if you don’t have your “issues” worked out around sex… and if you don’t BELIEVE that you will give a woman a MIND-BLOWING sexual experience… then you’re going to screw-up just about everything ELSE that happens BEFORE you have the chance to have sex.In other words, if you don’t have sex “handled”, then it will literally sabotage the rest of your
success with women.And to fix this, I’ve created a program that I call “Power Sexuality: How To Increase Your Sexual Confidence By Mastering Advanced Mental, Emotional, And Sexual Techniques”.You’ll notice that the subtitle starts with “How To Increase Your Sexual Confidence…”.Now, why did I choose THESE specific words?What is “Sexual Confidence”?And why do we need it?Well, I’ve had a lot of guys say things to me like “I don’t have any sexual confidence” and “I wish I had more sexual confidence”. These are the words that REAL GUYS use to describe their problems.At first, I didn’t really notice that these specific words were being used so often.But after I started paying closer attention, I realized that men have a common challenge… and they often use the same words to describe it.I’ve now come to realize that if you don’t have CONFIDENCE when it comes to sex, then you’re not going to have CONFIDENCE when it comes to just about anything else with women…You’re not going to have confidence when it comes to approaching a woman. You’re not going to have confidence when it comes to asking for her number… or asking her out on a date… or kissing her… or anything else.This program is ALL about BUILDING that Sexual Confidence. It’s all about overcoming guilt, shame, fear, self-consciousness, and anxiety that are connected to your SEXUAL DESIRE and sex drive.And it’s also all about teaching you some secret tricks and techniques for giving any woman a MIND-BLOWING sexual experience with you.You can read all about this program, and watch some great video clips of it here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/PowerSexuality/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
The Technique-Based Programs
Once you’ve gotten your “Inner Game” together, it’s time to really start working on your “moves”.And if you’d like to learn the most effective techniques for meeting women and getting dates, then this is the place to learn them…
“Approaching Women And Starting Conversations”
“Approaching Women And Starting Conversations”
For most guys, the scariest, most intense part of meeting women is APPROACHING women in order to start conversations.How many times have you seen a girl that you’d like to meet, and maybe even made eye contact with her… but you just couldn’t get up the nerve to talk to her?Well, it’s happened to me about a MILLION times.And before I knew HOW to approach women and start conversations, I was STUCK.Of course, the worst part was that I’d think about it for hours or even DAYS afterward… and I’d mentally beat myself up about it.The good news is that approaching women is a SKILL that can be LEARNED.It’s not magic, and anyone can do it.The good news is that once you learn this skill, you’ll see that it’s actually easy and fun.First, you must learn to overcome your irrational inner fears, and then you must learn what to do and say.Once you put these two pieces together, you can approach virtually any woman in virtually any situation, and easily start a conversation.Once you learn how to start conversations naturally, it will be EASY for you to get phone numbers and email addresses… and DATES.In this program, I’m going to help you work through your fears of approaching women… and I’m going to teach you exactly how to start conversations without rejection.Oh, I’ve also brought in a group of guest speakers that are MASTERS at approaching women. When you add them up, the guys in this program have approached literally THOUSANDS of women.You’re also going to meet a pair of WOMEN who take men out and teach them how to approach women LIVE “in the field”.It’s going to blow your mind, really.If you’d like to learn the skill of approaching women and starting conversations, go read about the program and watch some preview video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/ApproachingWomen/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Cocky Comedy & OtherConversation Skills”
Have you ever heard that women are attracted to humor?Have you ever had the feeling that if you could just make a woman LAUGH… the rest would be easy?Have you ever wondered why some guys were so NATURAL at making conversation with women… while it always seemed like a challenge to you?I can relate. In fact, I can more than relate… I can IDENTIFY.One of the most obvious “common denominators” that I found when I was meeting guys who were “naturals” with women… was their ability to make women LAUGH and SMILE.The more I saw this, the more I thought that these guys must understand how to be “funny”.This turned out to be only PART of the equation.The REST of the equation was the HOW.After observing many interactions between men and women, I started to notice a pattern…Many of the things that the “successful” guys were saying to women weren’t what you might call “nice”. They weren’t sweet, affectionate “please like me” words. And they weren’t a bunch of “jokes” that you might hear from a stand-up comedian.No, this was something different.One of my friends tried to describe it to me using the words “cocky” and “funny”.And I noticed that he would often make arrogant, condescending, sarcastic remarks to women… that were somehow “OK”… because they weren’t entirely SERIOUS.I eventually came to understand this technique, why it works, and how to use it. And I have to tell you, it’s one of the most EFFECTIVE techniques you will ever learn for creating ATTRACTION.In my program “Cocky Comedy”, I’m going to teach you the “roots” of humor. I’m also going to teach you all about why humans laugh (it’s not why you think). As a matter of fact, think about it for a minute…Why do most people laugh?Is it because they heard something funny?No, it’s not.The next ten times you hear someone laugh, ask yourself “Did they just hear something funny?”. The answer will almost ALWAYS be “no”.People only laugh in response to humor on RARE occasion.Most of the time, we’re laughing in response to something that contains no humor at all… like another person talking about the weather… or about a work situation.Laugher serves an important purpose that is WAY beyond humor. And it is a way that women communicate INTEREST in men, as well.If you’d like to learn how to use humor and other conversation skills to create ATTRACTION, then I highly recommend that you go check out the details of this program… and watch some of the video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/CockyComedy/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Using Body Language To Attract Women”
When guys first start learning about how to meet women, the first thing they want is almost always “pick up lines”…They want to know the WORDS to use to meet women.They’re often surprised when I tell them that their BODY LANGUAGE is at least as important as the words they’re using (actually, it’s MORE important).Posture, gestures, eye contact… all of these are signals that women can read VERY well. I’ve heard that women can read body language ten TIMES better than men.If you ask women, they’ll often tell you that they can know what another person is feeling and thinking just by looking at how they’re sitting or standing… how they’re moving… and what their expression is.For some reason, most men do NOT have this “natural talent”.For us guys, we have to LEARN how to communicate with our body language.I’ve created a program dedicated to exactly that… how to use Body Language to create ATTRACTION with women.In this program, I’ll teach you about the different messages you’re sending with your body language, gestures, and eye contact… and I’ll teach you how to INSTANTLY make yourself more attractive by understanding the mistakes you’re currently making (and how to fix them fast).Women are making dozens of decisions about you in the first few seconds… and you might as well take CONTROL of those decisions by taking CONTROL of the messages you’re sending with your body. This program will help you do exactly that.You can read about the details, and watch video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/BodyLanguage/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
For most guys, the scariest, most intense part of meeting women is APPROACHING women in order to start conversations.How many times have you seen a girl that you’d like to meet, and maybe even made eye contact with her… but you just couldn’t get up the nerve to talk to her?Well, it’s happened to me about a MILLION times.And before I knew HOW to approach women and start conversations, I was STUCK.Of course, the worst part was that I’d think about it for hours or even DAYS afterward… and I’d mentally beat myself up about it.The good news is that approaching women is a SKILL that can be LEARNED.It’s not magic, and anyone can do it.The good news is that once you learn this skill, you’ll see that it’s actually easy and fun.First, you must learn to overcome your irrational inner fears, and then you must learn what to do and say.Once you put these two pieces together, you can approach virtually any woman in virtually any situation, and easily start a conversation.Once you learn how to start conversations naturally, it will be EASY for you to get phone numbers and email addresses… and DATES.In this program, I’m going to help you work through your fears of approaching women… and I’m going to teach you exactly how to start conversations without rejection.Oh, I’ve also brought in a group of guest speakers that are MASTERS at approaching women. When you add them up, the guys in this program have approached literally THOUSANDS of women.You’re also going to meet a pair of WOMEN who take men out and teach them how to approach women LIVE “in the field”.It’s going to blow your mind, really.If you’d like to learn the skill of approaching women and starting conversations, go read about the program and watch some preview video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/ApproachingWomen/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Cocky Comedy & OtherConversation Skills”
Have you ever heard that women are attracted to humor?Have you ever had the feeling that if you could just make a woman LAUGH… the rest would be easy?Have you ever wondered why some guys were so NATURAL at making conversation with women… while it always seemed like a challenge to you?I can relate. In fact, I can more than relate… I can IDENTIFY.One of the most obvious “common denominators” that I found when I was meeting guys who were “naturals” with women… was their ability to make women LAUGH and SMILE.The more I saw this, the more I thought that these guys must understand how to be “funny”.This turned out to be only PART of the equation.The REST of the equation was the HOW.After observing many interactions between men and women, I started to notice a pattern…Many of the things that the “successful” guys were saying to women weren’t what you might call “nice”. They weren’t sweet, affectionate “please like me” words. And they weren’t a bunch of “jokes” that you might hear from a stand-up comedian.No, this was something different.One of my friends tried to describe it to me using the words “cocky” and “funny”.And I noticed that he would often make arrogant, condescending, sarcastic remarks to women… that were somehow “OK”… because they weren’t entirely SERIOUS.I eventually came to understand this technique, why it works, and how to use it. And I have to tell you, it’s one of the most EFFECTIVE techniques you will ever learn for creating ATTRACTION.In my program “Cocky Comedy”, I’m going to teach you the “roots” of humor. I’m also going to teach you all about why humans laugh (it’s not why you think). As a matter of fact, think about it for a minute…Why do most people laugh?Is it because they heard something funny?No, it’s not.The next ten times you hear someone laugh, ask yourself “Did they just hear something funny?”. The answer will almost ALWAYS be “no”.People only laugh in response to humor on RARE occasion.Most of the time, we’re laughing in response to something that contains no humor at all… like another person talking about the weather… or about a work situation.Laugher serves an important purpose that is WAY beyond humor. And it is a way that women communicate INTEREST in men, as well.If you’d like to learn how to use humor and other conversation skills to create ATTRACTION, then I highly recommend that you go check out the details of this program… and watch some of the video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/CockyComedy/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Using Body Language To Attract Women”
When guys first start learning about how to meet women, the first thing they want is almost always “pick up lines”…They want to know the WORDS to use to meet women.They’re often surprised when I tell them that their BODY LANGUAGE is at least as important as the words they’re using (actually, it’s MORE important).Posture, gestures, eye contact… all of these are signals that women can read VERY well. I’ve heard that women can read body language ten TIMES better than men.If you ask women, they’ll often tell you that they can know what another person is feeling and thinking just by looking at how they’re sitting or standing… how they’re moving… and what their expression is.For some reason, most men do NOT have this “natural talent”.For us guys, we have to LEARN how to communicate with our body language.I’ve created a program dedicated to exactly that… how to use Body Language to create ATTRACTION with women.In this program, I’ll teach you about the different messages you’re sending with your body language, gestures, and eye contact… and I’ll teach you how to INSTANTLY make yourself more attractive by understanding the mistakes you’re currently making (and how to fix them fast).Women are making dozens of decisions about you in the first few seconds… and you might as well take CONTROL of those decisions by taking CONTROL of the messages you’re sending with your body. This program will help you do exactly that.You can read about the details, and watch video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/BodyLanguage/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Meeting Women Online”
“Meeting Women Online”
When I first started learning how to meet women “seriously”, the internet was a HUGE help to me.Why?Because it allowed me to “test out” my ideas… and it allowed me to “practice” with women in a “slow motion” environment.Talking to a woman on an instant messenger is different from talking to a woman in person.You get to communicate, and you get to do things that build attraction… but you get to do it at about a TENTH the speed of normal conversation… and you get to do it without all the distractions that come from being right in front of someone.It allows you to focus on the art of communicating your ideas with words… and it allows you time to THINK about what you’re going to say between comments.
Communicating by email “slows down” the dialog even MORE.When I first started, I would spend time almost every day chatting and emailing with women… and it was a PRICELESS experience.Even MORE incredible is the power of placing online personal ads…This allows you to really put your “best foot forward”, and learn what makes women respond to YOU.It also allows you to test different ideas, approaches, and styles of communicating… so you can see EXACTLY what works and what doesn’t. As you can probably imagine, this is very valuable information. It teaches you not only what works ONLINE, but also what works in GENERAL.Practicing your Cocky & Funny conversation skills online “drills” them into your mind… so you have them ready when you meet women in PERSON.And finally, there’s nothing more convenient than being able to sit down at your computer anytime, day or night, and chat with single women who are looking for dates.I’ve put an entire program together that will teach you about all of the important aspects of meeting women online… and how to use different types of technology to start conversations, build attraction, and get dates.I’ve brought in several of my friends to teach you their step-by-step methods for meeting women online… and I even do some “make-overs”… where we take a guy and his profile, and fix it LIVE.If you’re interested in learning how to use the incredible power of the internet to meet women, then you MUST check this program out. Go here to read about it and watch some video clips: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/MeetingWomenOnline/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs”
Wouldn’t it be great if attractive single women would all go out and gather together… so you could find them all in one place?
Wouldn’t it also be cool if they put on their best clothes, made themselves up and did their hair, then put on some great music in the background?I know, I’m making bars and clubs sound like paradise… huh?Well, the truth is that bars and clubs are AMAZING places to meet women.If you’ve ever been out to a popular place on a Saturday night, then you know that beautiful single women show up in GROUPS…But there’s more to the story…Anywhere that attracts a lot of hot women also attracts a lot of COMPETITION.Most guys find that trying to meet women in bars and clubs is CHALLENGING.I mean, we are talking about an environment that’s loud and distracting… and full of other guys who are working hard to meet the same women.What you may NOT realize is that most of the guys who go out to bars do NOT meet many women.And what you may also not realize is that if you KNOW how to meet women in this environment, it’s actually EASY.When I first started learning how to meet women myself, I would go out to bars and clubs, and use them as “practice” environments.It’s truly amazing to be able to go somewhere and try something ten times in a row… just to see how it works.It’s also great to be able to approach women, one after the other, knowing that it really doesn’t matter what happens… because if the first one isn’t interesting, there are fifty more behind her.But like anything else, the key to success in these environments is KNOWING WHAT YOU’RE DOING.I’ve created a special program dedicated to helping you meet women in bars and clubs, and if you’re interested in learning how to take advantage of this amazing opportunity to meet attractive women where they gather in groups… then this program will help you DRAMATICALLY.You can get all the details and watch some great video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/BarsAndClubs/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
So Now What Should I Do?
I’d like to wrap this up by pointing out a couple of things to you, and making a couple of recommendations.First of all, let’s talk about your future.There’s an old saying that goes like this: “If you keep doing what you’ve done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got”.In other words, if you want different RESULTS in your life, then you’re going to have to DO something different.Success with women isn’t an “accident”. You’re not going to wake up tomorrow and know how to attract women. Sorry to be the one to tell you the bad news.But the GOOD news is that you can LEARN how to meet women.I know, because I used to have no idea what I was doing with women… and I LEARNED how to overcome my fears, approach women, and get dates.The difference between you and me is that I had to learn the HARD way. I spent YEARS of my time… and a lot of money learning stuff that just didn’t work.You have the chance to take advantage of all the hard work and time I put into figuring this stuff out… and you have the chance to learn stuff that took me YEARS… in just a few HOURS.
If you’re just getting started, and you’re on a budget, make sure you read all of my email newsletters, and get your hands on a copy of my ebook “Double Your Dating”.Next, subscribe to my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” CD program. Listen to each of them a few times. Let the ideas and the THINKING settle into your mind.Then, if you’re ready for a deeper education, get a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program. This program will open your mind, and take you “behind the scenes” in the world of dating and mating.After you go through that program, you need to decide if you’re more interested in working on your “Inner Game” (meaning your beliefs, fears, and self image stuff), or you’re more interested in “Techniques” (meaning learning how to approach women, meet women online, etc.).If you’d like to work on your Inner Game, then invest in my “On Being A Man” program and my “Deep Inner Game” program first. These programs are PROFOUND. They will help you overcome your inner limitations… and build a powerful, confident self image.If you like to work on TECHNIQUES, then consider my “Approaching Women” program, my “Cocky Comedy” program, or my “Meeting Women Online” program next.If you’re ready for some serious “mind-bending”, then you should also check out my “Power Sexuality” program and my “Mastery” program. Both contain Inner Game and techniques, and both will have a very intense impact on your success with women and dating.Every one of my programs addresses slightly different aspects of dating success.There are common themes and theories in all of them… but each one takes an idea (or many ideas), and goes “deep” with them.And remember my “Try Before You Buy” guarantee… I’ll send you any of my programs to try out BEFORE you pay for it. I want you to be absolutely sure that the program is for you before you make the investment.
If you have any questions about any of my programs, do me a favor and send an email to amennewton@hotmail.com, and I’ll make sure you get an answer back fast.Thanks for your time, and I’ll talk to you soon.Your Friend,Amen Newton
Amen NewtonP.S. Make sure you bookmark this site, so you can come back anytime you want to check out my different programs.
When I first started learning how to meet women “seriously”, the internet was a HUGE help to me.Why?Because it allowed me to “test out” my ideas… and it allowed me to “practice” with women in a “slow motion” environment.Talking to a woman on an instant messenger is different from talking to a woman in person.You get to communicate, and you get to do things that build attraction… but you get to do it at about a TENTH the speed of normal conversation… and you get to do it without all the distractions that come from being right in front of someone.It allows you to focus on the art of communicating your ideas with words… and it allows you time to THINK about what you’re going to say between comments.
Communicating by email “slows down” the dialog even MORE.When I first started, I would spend time almost every day chatting and emailing with women… and it was a PRICELESS experience.Even MORE incredible is the power of placing online personal ads…This allows you to really put your “best foot forward”, and learn what makes women respond to YOU.It also allows you to test different ideas, approaches, and styles of communicating… so you can see EXACTLY what works and what doesn’t. As you can probably imagine, this is very valuable information. It teaches you not only what works ONLINE, but also what works in GENERAL.Practicing your Cocky & Funny conversation skills online “drills” them into your mind… so you have them ready when you meet women in PERSON.And finally, there’s nothing more convenient than being able to sit down at your computer anytime, day or night, and chat with single women who are looking for dates.I’ve put an entire program together that will teach you about all of the important aspects of meeting women online… and how to use different types of technology to start conversations, build attraction, and get dates.I’ve brought in several of my friends to teach you their step-by-step methods for meeting women online… and I even do some “make-overs”… where we take a guy and his profile, and fix it LIVE.If you’re interested in learning how to use the incredible power of the internet to meet women, then you MUST check this program out. Go here to read about it and watch some video clips: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/MeetingWomenOnline/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
“Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs”
Wouldn’t it be great if attractive single women would all go out and gather together… so you could find them all in one place?
Wouldn’t it also be cool if they put on their best clothes, made themselves up and did their hair, then put on some great music in the background?I know, I’m making bars and clubs sound like paradise… huh?Well, the truth is that bars and clubs are AMAZING places to meet women.If you’ve ever been out to a popular place on a Saturday night, then you know that beautiful single women show up in GROUPS…But there’s more to the story…Anywhere that attracts a lot of hot women also attracts a lot of COMPETITION.Most guys find that trying to meet women in bars and clubs is CHALLENGING.I mean, we are talking about an environment that’s loud and distracting… and full of other guys who are working hard to meet the same women.What you may NOT realize is that most of the guys who go out to bars do NOT meet many women.And what you may also not realize is that if you KNOW how to meet women in this environment, it’s actually EASY.When I first started learning how to meet women myself, I would go out to bars and clubs, and use them as “practice” environments.It’s truly amazing to be able to go somewhere and try something ten times in a row… just to see how it works.It’s also great to be able to approach women, one after the other, knowing that it really doesn’t matter what happens… because if the first one isn’t interesting, there are fifty more behind her.But like anything else, the key to success in these environments is KNOWING WHAT YOU’RE DOING.I’ve created a special program dedicated to helping you meet women in bars and clubs, and if you’re interested in learning how to take advantage of this amazing opportunity to meet attractive women where they gather in groups… then this program will help you DRAMATICALLY.You can get all the details and watch some great video clips here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/17859/BarsAndClubs/index.asp?z=DZZZZZZZZUNJX
So Now What Should I Do?
I’d like to wrap this up by pointing out a couple of things to you, and making a couple of recommendations.First of all, let’s talk about your future.There’s an old saying that goes like this: “If you keep doing what you’ve done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got”.In other words, if you want different RESULTS in your life, then you’re going to have to DO something different.Success with women isn’t an “accident”. You’re not going to wake up tomorrow and know how to attract women. Sorry to be the one to tell you the bad news.But the GOOD news is that you can LEARN how to meet women.I know, because I used to have no idea what I was doing with women… and I LEARNED how to overcome my fears, approach women, and get dates.The difference between you and me is that I had to learn the HARD way. I spent YEARS of my time… and a lot of money learning stuff that just didn’t work.You have the chance to take advantage of all the hard work and time I put into figuring this stuff out… and you have the chance to learn stuff that took me YEARS… in just a few HOURS.
If you’re just getting started, and you’re on a budget, make sure you read all of my email newsletters, and get your hands on a copy of my ebook “Double Your Dating”.Next, subscribe to my monthly “Interviews With Dating Gurus” CD program. Listen to each of them a few times. Let the ideas and the THINKING settle into your mind.Then, if you’re ready for a deeper education, get a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program. This program will open your mind, and take you “behind the scenes” in the world of dating and mating.After you go through that program, you need to decide if you’re more interested in working on your “Inner Game” (meaning your beliefs, fears, and self image stuff), or you’re more interested in “Techniques” (meaning learning how to approach women, meet women online, etc.).If you’d like to work on your Inner Game, then invest in my “On Being A Man” program and my “Deep Inner Game” program first. These programs are PROFOUND. They will help you overcome your inner limitations… and build a powerful, confident self image.If you like to work on TECHNIQUES, then consider my “Approaching Women” program, my “Cocky Comedy” program, or my “Meeting Women Online” program next.If you’re ready for some serious “mind-bending”, then you should also check out my “Power Sexuality” program and my “Mastery” program. Both contain Inner Game and techniques, and both will have a very intense impact on your success with women and dating.Every one of my programs addresses slightly different aspects of dating success.There are common themes and theories in all of them… but each one takes an idea (or many ideas), and goes “deep” with them.And remember my “Try Before You Buy” guarantee… I’ll send you any of my programs to try out BEFORE you pay for it. I want you to be absolutely sure that the program is for you before you make the investment.
If you have any questions about any of my programs, do me a favor and send an email to amennewton@hotmail.com, and I’ll make sure you get an answer back fast.Thanks for your time, and I’ll talk to you soon.Your Friend,Amen Newton
Amen NewtonP.S. Make sure you bookmark this site, so you can come back anytime you want to check out my different programs.
Ways to Start a Conversation or Chat with a Woman
Ways to Start a Conversation or Chat with a Woman
By Benz Newton
Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life, and it all started with me walking by a random girl and saying (using a clear, resonating voice and disinterested, but relaxed and sexual body language), "Hey."
She looked up, expecting me to say something interesting.
My follow-up was simply, "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie."
After that, she kept the conversation going. Simple, right?
Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her.
When I first started speaking to her, I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me.
My mindset was, "I'm just going through my day. But hey, if some hot chick wants to earn my attention, that's cool. If not, I'm going to enjoy my day just the same."
I've coached a lot of guys, and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her.
Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e.g., "What's you major?" or "How has your day been today?")
This sets her up with a higher value than him.
You see, whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval), this causes her to lose attraction for you.
In every conversation, there is always one person who is reacting more than the other. The person who reacts less (i.e., is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant, or alpha, person.
The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers.
Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them. If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval, then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest.
Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning. Make sure to not ever react too much to what a girl says. Always remain more relaxed than her.
So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try. Don't care what she thinks. Just say whatever you want call or email me at amenewton@yahoo.com or 08052360819.
By Benz Newton
Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life, and it all started with me walking by a random girl and saying (using a clear, resonating voice and disinterested, but relaxed and sexual body language), "Hey."
She looked up, expecting me to say something interesting.
My follow-up was simply, "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie."
After that, she kept the conversation going. Simple, right?
Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her.
When I first started speaking to her, I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me.
My mindset was, "I'm just going through my day. But hey, if some hot chick wants to earn my attention, that's cool. If not, I'm going to enjoy my day just the same."
I've coached a lot of guys, and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her.
Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e.g., "What's you major?" or "How has your day been today?")
This sets her up with a higher value than him.
You see, whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval), this causes her to lose attraction for you.
In every conversation, there is always one person who is reacting more than the other. The person who reacts less (i.e., is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant, or alpha, person.
The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers.
Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them. If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval, then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest.
Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning. Make sure to not ever react too much to what a girl says. Always remain more relaxed than her.
So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try. Don't care what she thinks. Just say whatever you want call or email me at amenewton@yahoo.com or 08052360819.
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